Emotional Abuse

‘Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me' According to the website phrases.org.uk the origins of this saying go back to 1862 if not earlier. It implies that someone may be able to physically hurt you; they won’t be able to hurt you with...

Before I start to talk about how my husband used our cats as a form of control, I will be honest with you; I found this article incredibly hard to write. Many tears have been shed in the process. How he treated the boys and the cats I find harder to deal with than...

For many years I have had a love/hate relationship with Christmas. As a child I looked forward to it, what would Father Christmas bring me in my stocking? Being an only child I loved spending time with my cousins. Christmas during my teenage years had both the...

WARNING: Reading about how people can have thoughts of suicide can be triggering. If you are feeling vulnerable it may be advisable for you not to read any further. I never thought of myself as one who would want to take my own life, until one day, it all became...

At the beginning of my journey into discovering I had been in an abusive relationship, I had not heard of the terms coercive control, emotional abuse or psychological abuse. To me, abuse was physical; therefore, because my husband had never physically hurt me, he...

Do they use your past against you and even weaponise it? In those early days of getting to know one another, I told him a couple of things about my past. Little did I know that as time went on he would use those incidents against me. Do they see you as an extension...

Just when you think you have finally come to the conclusion that there were no more incidents of abuse that you were subjected to, you are faced with the reality that there was a lot more. This is what happened to me when compiling this list. As I was writing, I...

If you are experiencing any of the following, then you are being subjected to emotional abuse Are they constantly checking up on you by wanting to know what you are doing and where you are? Are they continually pointing out your faults, mistakes, and weaknesses?...

Come rain, come shine, come sick children whenever my husband phoned I had to stop what I was doing, answer the phone and spend as long as he wanted to talk to me. Should I complain or say I had other things to do, he would hang up. I would panic and phone him back...